No one can say with certainty when is the right time to come to a meeting. Sometimes family members come shortly after the child has died while other times they wait longer. Some people who attend shortly after the child's death may decide not to come back until they're more ready. This is a personal decision.
There is never a charge to attend a meeting of The Compassionate Friends. Our chapters rely on voluntary donations from members, friends and the community at large.
The Compassionate Friends has no religious affiliation at all. Chapter meetings are held in a wide variety of locations depending upon what is available in our communities.
Chapter meetings are open to all families who have experienced the death of a child, at any age, from any cause. Regardless of age, we in The Compassionate Friends believe our children will always be thought of as just that.....our children.
Yes. All families who have experienced the death of a child at any age, from any cause, are welcome.
Of course, you can bring a friend, but we ask that they, as well as all members, respect each other's privacy. It is important for us to be able to share freely within our group and be sure confidences will be respected.
Yes. We all grieve differently and he may not be ready to take part just yet...or ever. And, likewise, many husbands attend meetings without their wives.
I think you will find that members of The Compassionate Friends are very tolerant of any views. After the death of a child, many priorities, as well as values, change.
While older teen and adult siblings are welcome to attend, the meetings are not appropriate for younger children. The policy of The Compassionate Friends is that only those old enough to drive to the meetings be permitted to attend.
No one is required to talk at any meeting. We understand how difficult that can be when our grief is so fresh. We do ask that you listen, however.
No reservations are needed. Just come whenever you feel up to it.
At some meetings we simply introduce ourselves and share our thoughts and feelings. At other meetings, chapters have short programs before or after the sharing time. The programs may include a brief guest speaker, viewing a video tape, or listening to an audio tape or CD. Chapters usually have special months when they hold a balloon launch or have a memorial candle lighting.
Often, the first meeting brings a lot of emotions to the surface and this may make the first meeting difficult. Some say that they bring home the pain of others after listening to their stories. Attending three meetings gives you time enough to allow your emotions to even out and to understand that in sharing there is healing.
Yes. Many chapters are divided almost evenly between men and women while others are not. Men grieve, too, and are welcome to attend meetings for support.
Yes. We all grieve differently and your spouse or significant other may not be ready to take part just yet . . . or ever.
We all grieve differently. Many parents don't feel the need of a support group until years after the death of a child. It's all right to come whenever you are ready, whether it's soon after your child's death, months later or years later.
While we understand the difficulties of finding child care, we must ask that any children attending with you be old enough to understand the meeting discussions and not be upset by them. Some chapters have sibling groups for children twelve or older; check with your local chapter.
People attend meetings until they no longer feel a need. Some attend just a few meetings while others come for years. Some are so thankful for the helpful support they've received that they stay to help in chapter leadership so they can be there for the next person who walk through the doors seeking help.